Adopted at 20: Podcast Episode 6 (ICYMI)

One of the things I’ve noticed over the years is that, while I have a lot to learn from other, more experienced foster parents, mental health professionals, books, etc., the people who have taught me more than anything about how to be a good foster parent or foster caregiver if you prefer is children who are or were in foster care. The kids who have come and gone from our home as well as adults who are former foster youth have taught me more than anyone about what it’s like for kids in foster care and what they need most from those of us who step in to care for them when they are in trauma or transition. One of the things I love about this podcast is that it’s giving me a chance to connect with people like today’s guest—former foster youth who are willing to share from their experiences in order to help foster parents like me do a better job caring for our kids.

Brittney entered foster care when she was 16, but her journey with the department of child services and CPS started way before that—years earlier. Brittney spent most of her childhood bouncing around between friends and family members, going from school to school (or sometimes not going to school at all), experiencing many forms of trauma and violence, before finally entering foster care as a teen. When she did, she landed in a home where her life changed dramatically for the better. As I listened to Brittney, I noticed a theme that comes up over and over when I hear from former foster youth, and that theme is presence. What foster youth need more than anything else when their own parents are unable or unwilling to care for them is a caring adult who is consistently present—someone who is there for them through thick and thin and able to give unconditional love and patient guidance. 

It’s so important for us foster parents to hear from those who have lived through the system. So with that, here’s my conversation with Brittney.

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Thanks for listening and thanks for caring about foster care.

“Back to School” with Ernest Henderson, Jr. (Podcast)

It’s back to school time, and for youth in foster care, that can either be a really good thing or a really, really hard thing (or a bit of both.)

Today I’m speaking with Ernest Henderson, Associate Director of Eastern Washington Education Programs at Treehouse.

Ernest not only brings the professional insights of someone who devotes his career to helping foster youth succeed in school, but he also brings a background of being a former foster youth and a former foster parent. In this episode we discuss some of the ways a foster parent can support their child in school, how to navigate communicating with your child’s teachers and school personnel, and tips for preparing your foster youth to succeed in a new school. We also touched on positive discipline for youth in foster care and ways to empower and encourage our kids.

Ernest mentioned a few things for foster parents to learn more about, including the Every Student Succeeds Act, and I’ve included several helpful links in the show notes for this episode—so be sure to check those out.

I really appreciated what Ernest had to share, and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! 

My New Podcast Is LIVE!

I am so excited to introduce this to you. I announced it last month, and the first episode went live on August 1! If you haven’t had a chance to listen to it, I hope you will. I had a wonderful conversation with Amber M. Jewell, a woman who is aptly named, because she truly is a treasure. Having spent time in foster care as a youth, she went on to become a social worker and foster parent. She now uses her story to encourage others.

I am not new to podcasting. From 2008-2012, I hosted an interview podcast called IAM Conversations, where I followed the “conversational interview” format. My guests were mostly people in the arts and humanities. I’ve taken the same approach to talking with people inside the foster care system, and it feel so good to be back in the podcasting saddle!

I plan to release a new episode every Monday to members of the Flourishing Foster Parent, and then to everyone else every Thursday. Please subscribe and review the podcast and help spread the word!